“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” 
― Paulo Coelho, Brida

I don’t know why talking or posting about things that bother us (women in general) seems to help. I guess its our way of dealing with things or processing them? Either way, this is my little blog or rant so that others can learn from my mistakes  and hopefully myself as well.

If something is in the past, leave it there. I personally seem to gravitate towards drama and create more fuss than is usually necessary. The problem is that men don’t like fuss. They like simplicity and dealing with things once and then never revisiting them. 

Girls, do yourselves a favour. If you have to work through something that happened in the past, whether it had anything to do with your man and whether he says he can handle it, don’t. Write about, talk to your girlfriends about, blog about it or anything else, but do not bring up an issue which was (in his eyes) settled . Especially if nothing can be done about it and you simply need to deal with the emotions.

But if you do make a muck up of things (like I did) say you’re sorry and then give your man space. Don’t be cold. Send him goodnight messages or “I miss you“‘s but don’t expect him to comfort you while he is brooding.

You’ll have to be more independent than usual till he gets his head sorted out. Use that time to build yourself up. Don’t be like me and look for self-affirmation from your man. Its incredibly unhealthy and will leave you miserable most of the time. Fall in love with yourself and do some self-discovery or soul searching. 

“Have no fear of perfection - you’ll never reach it.” 
― Salvador Dalí